As most of you know, we chose not to find out the sex of our baby before she was born. We found out at the 20 week scan with Logan that he was going to be a boy and honestly, I knew he was a boy and finding out was so anti-climatic for me that there was no way I was finding out the second go around. I actually would have been fine not knowing then, either, but B really wanted to know so we made a compromise that this time we would wait.
Once we got past the 20 week ultrasound without finding out, it became much easier to wait, even though we had a few more ultrasounds after that one. When we told others we were waiting, almost everyone thought that was so awesome while also commenting that there was "no way!" they could do the same. Being that I work in a hospital, people asked me all the time if we knew the sex of our baby. Every time I said no I felt a little more excited and proud that we were holding out. It's 9 months...how hard can that be? There were times when it would have been nice to know but there was never a moment where I felt like I needed to know.
In my family we talk every now and then about our top 5 life moments. You know the ones that just move you and make you feel every single emotion you felt at that time all over again. The moment that Evelyn was placed on my belly and B and took that long anticipated peek between her legs and saw that she was a girl? Yeah, that is one of my top 5 life moments. The exhilaration I felt and seeing everyone's eyes well with tears upon our announcement will never be forgotten.
So to all you soon to be mamas, whether for the first or fourth time, I urge you to wait. It is one of the greatest, most exciting surprises in life, as I'm sure you've heard others describe, and it could not be more true. And if you think you really can't wait, trust me, you can...it is so worth it!!
You just gave me CHILLS without having goosebumps!!! (Does that make sense?) I have never ever ever EVER felt like I could or even remotely wanted to postpone finding out the gender of our babies. We PAID to find out with our first one, that's how badly we HAD to know. And I never even thought to wait for the babies we will hopefully {God-willing} have in the future... but after reading this... I have actually put the idea into consideration. I do worry about clothes and such... has that been an issue at all for you?
ReplyDeleteThough we don't have kids yet one of the things we always talk about is we don't want to know. It's one of life's few true surprises and it's truly a special moment for you and your spouse. :-)
ReplyDeleteWe have agreed when the time comes we both want to wait! It's one of life's few surprises :-)
ReplyDeleteThough we don't have kids yet one of the things we always talk about is we don't want to know. It's one of life's few true surprises and it's truly a special moment for you and your spouse. :-)
ReplyDeleteWe always said that IF Emmett had been a girl, we would have remained "team green" and not found out what #3 was until birth. However, we both are very TYPE A personalities, feeling the need to get everything ready in case we were having a baby of the opposite sex, so I doubt we could wait to find out now that we have two boys. Especially since we both want a baby girl SO badly, I think I'd rather find out at 20(ish) weeks so that we aren't holding out hope for a girl that entire pregnancy. That might sound bad, but it's the truth. I cried when we found out that Emmett was a boy, so I can only imagine the pressure that will be on #3, since he/she will likely be our last baby.
ReplyDeleteWe waited to find out what Parker's gender was and it was so special. We also made sure that the Dr didn't announce what he was so we could find out for ourselves. Best. Surprise. Ever. I tell everyone to wait.
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